I enjoyed listening to the Happy Mum, Happy Baby podcast where Giovanna Fletcher had the Duchess of Cambridge as her guest. I found myself smiling and nodding along to much of it and as always feeling very lucky to have become a Mum. The Duchess also mentioned her extreme sickness and Hyperemesis and I was frustrated to see how what she said had been misconstrued online. One website said hypnobirthing helped her cope with it - which is not what she said at all, she acknowledged how awful HG is and how hypnobirthing was for helping with labour. I’m really proud to have become ambassador for Pregnancy Sickness Support and hope to raise a bit more awareness of how horrendous Hyperemesis is.
The podcast also mentioned how suicide is the biggest killer in new Mums. After the horrendous news about Caroline Flack this weekend it highlighted the need for us to talk and support one another. It feels such a fragile world right now, I can’t understand why people would make others feel worse about themselves. Why would someone sit down and type something offensive at best to another human? How terribly sad that someone takes their own life because they feel so utterly hopeless, and in their awful passing it’s so evident they were very loved. If only they could see that before it’s too late.
It was so tragic to hear on the podcast about suicide being the biggest killer in new Mums, then again our life has been turned upside down and I can absolutely see why anyone would struggle to get their head around the sleepless nights and the realisation that you are responsible for this tiny human. Just earlier this evening Zac was inconsolable, he hadn’t been like it for a few weeks since his colic has eased and the worry was just horrible as I couldn’t calm him. Luckily a warm bath calmed him and it seems he is teething.
Social media paints a picture of everyone doing brilliantly and I too am guilty of mainly just putting up the best bits. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves, whether as a parent it’s pressure to be perfect- although I’m pretty sure we are all making it up as we go along. I know I’m putting pressure on myself to lose my Mum tum especially for when I get back to work properly as it’s obviously quite a visible job! Then again my body made a person- how amazing is that? Why the rush? Really it’s a trivial thing to be concerned about. On the other hand a part of me thinks about someone I’ve never met commenting on how I look. That’s the society we live in. I believe the majority are kind, supportive and encouraging. Don’t be one of these people who hides behind a keyboard and dishes out hate. Just stop and imagine if it was aimed at you, or your Mum, or daughter, or brother or sister or Dad or loved one. I’ve seen so many people posting this message today, in a world that seems to be more fragile then ever don’t forget people are too- be kind.
Hope this photo raises a smile :)
